5 Myths About The Vagina You Need To Know Now
January 19 2023 | Written by Rhea Kumar (She/Her)
Considering the lack of sex education and healthy conversation surrounding natural bodily functions, it comes to no surprise that the many myths of the mysterious vagina are alive and well. Should it look a certain way? Must it smell a certain way? Is there really a way to make it appear more âsexyâ? Here lies a certain reluctance to address the vagina for what it simply is: anatomy. Itâs not a decoration. Its existence isnât connected to the satisfaction of visual appeal. After all, all body parts come in many shapes, sizes, and colors- so why is there so much concern about the vagina? I mean, to be fair, we do place a lot of attention on other body parts as well, but letâs save that conversation for another day!
Absent in popular depictions of vaginas is reality. Porn is just the start: perfectly manicured vaginas seem to exist for entertainment. Education about the vagina is even more of a desert. In fact, only 13 states require sex education to be âmedically accurateâ. Itâs no surprise that many people with vaginas give into myths about it, and oftentimes, most of these myths are just wrong.Â
But as always, weâre here to help. Here are 5 myths about the vagina.
Your Vagina Needs to Smell A Certain WayÂ
Probably the most angering misconception about the vagina is that its scent must be reminiscent of a daisy. Well, the truth is that like all genitalia, a scent is individual. Dr. Karen Boyle MD FACS, says that itâs normal for the vagina to have a slight odor, and this odor is dependent on your menstrual cycle and other lifestyle considerations like whether youâve been sweating a lot, or just had sex.Â
However, if you realize that your vagina doesnât smell like its normal self and has an odor youâve probably never smelt before or is particularly strong, itâs best to make a visit to the gynecologist for an examination. There are distinct causes of abnormal vaginal odors, such as bacterial vaginosis.Â
The point here really is: the vagina is not predestined to smell like a perfume bottle. Itâs an organ.
There is a âRightâ Way That a Vulva Should LookÂ
In the age of rising concerns over visual aesthetics, it makes sense that the hysteria over perfection would cross into the vaginal territory. (I mean, where has it not?) When most people refer to the vagina, theyâre often referring to the vulva: the external, visible part of your genitals.Â
Sorry to break the news, but aesthetics arenât that crucial for the maintenance of your vagina. Yes, itâs true. The pageantry of the vulva is basically useless. After all, like all other body parts we were born with, the vulva comes in many shapes, colors and sizes. Some people can have a dangly labia, a puffy labia, or even one thatâs barely visible.Â
Pain Is Normal
Thanks to Fleabag, we can (kind of) laugh at the pain that most menstruators experience, but in all honesty, the pain is no joke, and it certainly should not be taken lightly. Pain, in certain cases can be normal, for example during menstruation. However, itâs the extent and duration that might be a sign that something deeper is going on. Yes, some light cramps can be totally normal, but if it's impacting your ability to live your life, it's not something that we should just "put up with."
Mensturators, or people with vaginas often take their pain as a side effect of simply having a vagina. While this can be quite ânobleâ in thinking, donât be afraid to check in on that pain, and to seek medical advice when you think itâs abnormal.Â
We may be built with the organs that can often cause pain, but that doesnât mean that you should be experiencing pain all the time, especially vaginal pain.Â
Vaginal discharge is a sign that something is wrongÂ
Sadly, many people with vaginas learn far too late that vaginal discharge is healthy! If you fall into the category of people who didnât learn that âcottage cheese pantiesâ (thanks, Jenny Slater) are completely normal, then we are here to tell you that it is in fact normal. Vaginal discharge is simply a fluid that is released through the vaginal opening and is a signal that your vagina is a well-oiled, self cleaning machine.Â
Vaginal discharge is a common concern amongst women, and while in the majority of cases itâs normal, some types of discharge can be an indication of a deeper underlying issue. For example, grey discharge could signal a case of Bacterial Vaginosis. Check out the Marlow discharge guide to learn more. And, as always, if you have any concerns, itâs always a good idea to speak to your doctor.
Vaginal Penetration is The Key to An OrgasmÂ
Are we still seriously having this conversation!? Itâs 2023, and that means that weâve got to address the elephant in the hypothetical room. Vaginal penetration is not the key to an orgasm. Though it can be. But most people require some clitoral stimulation. (In fact, there are numerous ways to orgasm that donât even necessarily include genitalia).
The vagina is a source of pleasure, of pain, and can be a helpful tool to indicate certain changes in health. We use it everyday and yet there lies so much mystery within this body part. So, letâs work on changing that, one conversation at a time.